The other day I had to run some errands in town and when I asked if anyone wanted to go with me, my youngest son suggested that he would.
Our stops were uneventful, our conversation was good, we learned a few things along the way, and we almost found everything we needed.
Upon getting back home I said simply, “Thanks for coming with me buddy.”
To which he quickly replied, “Thanks for letting me!”
At dinner that evening we went through our highs for the day. His and mine were the same, running errands together in town.
We are in the custom and habit of eating dinner together as a family, and actually right now we have been eating all of our meals together as a family. One of the things we do on a regular basis when we sit down to an evening meal is to go over the high lights of our day. Family members aren’t forced to share, but it is definitely encouraged. We usually don’t need help with conversation around the table but sometimes checking in with each other at the end of the day, especially when life is busy, is a good place to connect with one another.
As I thought about my son’s response of “thanks for letting me” and his high light being the same as mine I spend some time reflecting on how important it is for us to spend time with our children, and how really our time is all they really want from us. At least at the age and stage of life my youngest is in.
He says he hates going more than a day without seeing or talking to his parents. This can happen when we travel our work gets us out the door early and home late, so we have to do a good job of connecting when we can. Technology helps with this, as does impromptu car rides to run errands. Once in a busy season I stopped by his school and got him out of class just so we could see each other.
This is also the kind who when he was a toddler would run and pick up a phone to say hi whenever my name was said. I was gone a lot for work, and talking on the phone was one of the ways I could connect with my sons. I didn’t keep that job very long.
My encouragement to parents today is to spend time with your children, even if you have to postpone doing something important.